tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8848136552048498236.post4017243509084384684..comments2023-10-07T11:14:27.524-04:00Comments on Xavier Universe: And the next step is? by MichaelXUniversehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06187901245300794413noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8848136552048498236.post-22336062916461693862007-10-30T21:02:00.000-04:002007-10-30T21:02:00.000-04:00Thank you for all the comments. I hope that this d...Thank you for all the comments. I hope that this dialogue can continue in the future. I encourage everyone to send me a brief e-mail at lobanm@xavier.edu to continue the discussion. Below are my individual responses to the comments that were made. <BR/><BR/>Katie R,<BR/><BR/>Would you be interested in having a dialogue now? The whole idea of dialogue is that both sides win something. Shall we try to have such dialogue on Xavier’s campus?<BR/><BR/>J. Marra,<BR/><BR/>Do you think honesty is a virtue that a lot of people do not have? People often hide in lies to avoid sad reality. People often hide from dialogue to avid the possibility of learning something without proving something. <BR/><BR/>Bubbles,<BR/><BR/>You are not alone; I am not sure on what the dialogue is either. But that is exactly what I want to learn. Any thoughts on what steps we should take to do so?<BR/><BR/>Morgan M,<BR/><BR/>Are you striving to learn more about the art of a dialogue? Me too. I realize how important the dialogue is but I am not quite sure on where to turn to learn about it. <BR/><BR/> ASeyaliogu,<BR/><BR/>Why do you think most of the discussions end with arguments and even fights?<BR/><BR/>A. Hammann,<BR/><BR/>Have we ever thought about having a conversation with ourselves? What would it mean to understand yourself? In Eastern world this concept is commonly referred to as meditation. May be dialogue should start with a meditation?<BR/><BR/>k.justin,<BR/><BR/>Imagine being in a room where everyone is right, there will not be a lot of dialogue. Perhaps the concept of being right is very misleading. How can we be right in our views or opinions? I have my opinion, you have your opinion, how can we ever know which one is right and which one is wrong?<BR/><BR/>GreisM,<BR/><BR/>I have the same attitude toward listening to other people’s descriptions of a certain location. The question is how do you share what you felt with others if you know that they will never have a chance to see what you saw. <BR/><BR/>Tony, <BR/><BR/>What do you think can motivate us to talk to each other and not at each other?<BR/><BR/>Millers3,<BR/><BR/>I would love to share what I learned and observed. Would you be interested in organizing a discussion on the subject of interreligious dialogue? E-mail me at lobanm@xavier.edu.<BR/><BR/>Elisabeth,<BR/><BR/>How can we learn to listen to each other?Michaelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02110562171175690811noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8848136552048498236.post-84602763866863723822007-10-30T12:38:00.000-04:002007-10-30T12:38:00.000-04:00I want to thank you for your interest in this subj...I want to thank you for your interest in this subject and your action in going across the world to hear the important words of the leaders of the world. I really admire your work and thank you for openning our eyes to the importance of open dialogue between groups no matter how important or influential the groups may be. I think this open dialogue is definitely a step in the right direction as it exposes the world to its ignorance. Ignorance is really the root of all problems and with help from open dialogue, we can be better able to eradicate ignorace from the world as it plagues all who live in it. Thank you for showing us the importance of listening, like really listening, to each other.elisabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09152201709874801516noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8848136552048498236.post-2883345339938868022007-10-30T12:21:00.000-04:002007-10-30T12:21:00.000-04:00This problem that confronts you confronts many. I...This problem that confronts you confronts many. I really enjoyed your examples about your experiences and how you are relating them to the dialogs. I would love to hear more from your point of view about how some of the dialog worked out. Thanks for making this blog, it is an amazing view into something that can only be experienced first-hand.millers3https://www.blogger.com/profile/09206101496746039903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8848136552048498236.post-76982007530388530562007-10-30T11:54:00.000-04:002007-10-30T11:54:00.000-04:00First of all I think it is wonderful what you guys...First of all I think it is wonderful what you guys are doing because dialogue between religions is fantastic. Also I really enjoyed reading your distinction between debate and dialogue. You are right no one wins in a debate because it is impossible to make the opposing side agree. But with dialogue it is possible for two sides to at least agree to be different but not against each other.Tonyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17208686145751441772noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8848136552048498236.post-22854619503855402152007-10-30T10:44:00.000-04:002007-10-30T10:44:00.000-04:00It is indeed very difficult to begin a dialogue wi...It is indeed very difficult to begin a dialogue without letting it become a debate. Too often people dont listen, they simply wait for their chance to be heard, and even if that is cordial, it is advancing nothing. Also, I think it is extremely wise to have refrained from blogging about sightseeing. While Ive never been one to enjoy someone's description of someplace else, it wasnt until I read this and stopped to think about it that I realized quite why those descriptions are so lacking.GreisMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04577220054916854289noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8848136552048498236.post-66049834284541302462007-10-30T10:17:00.000-04:002007-10-30T10:17:00.000-04:00I think i can agree with you when you say people d...I think i can agree with you when you say people don't find plesure in agreeing with others. Since childhood we are told to speak our mind and let it be heard. I don't recall my mother ever telling me to back down and just agree with what everyone else says. I think this is why we have some trouble with dialouge. We all want to be right but that is not always going to happen.k. justinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15185361023745508655noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8848136552048498236.post-66180469389544892992007-10-29T22:07:00.000-04:002007-10-29T22:07:00.000-04:00I agree with you when you say that people do not r...I agree with you when you say that people do not really listen when others talk. Their main focus is whether the topic of discussion agrees or disagrees with their personal views. With this kind of attitude it is hard to become a more insightful person because you have a one-track mind set. I think that before a "good" dialogue can take place each person must go into the conversation being as honest as possible and telling each other what they really feel. Once this happens the dialogue has a greater chance of prospering and setting a foundation for debate.A. Hamannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04294358338705672103noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8848136552048498236.post-9794946227656312662007-10-29T19:07:00.000-04:002007-10-29T19:07:00.000-04:00First of all I just want to say that I’m really ha...First of all I just want to say that I’m really happy for you and Maggie to been able to go on a trip like this. Also, I totally agree on the fact that it is complicated to have any type of dialogue with people. We are so caught up in our own opinions that any kind of disagreement turns into more of a argument then a discussion. Our dialogues should not be about who is right or wrong but instead have us understand and respect each other's opinions and ideas.ASeyaliogluhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00720698081007966590noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8848136552048498236.post-49988993664530882942007-10-28T23:49:00.000-04:002007-10-28T23:49:00.000-04:00After reading you post I realized how we are never...After reading you post I realized how we are never really taught to dialogue. I didn't realize how much emphasis is put on winning, being right, and persuasion. nothing is ever really accomplished or learned when the goal is to win over anothers opinions and life experiences. I'm glad that strives are being taken to change this in the Xavier Community and the world as a whole.morgan m,https://www.blogger.com/profile/04218005457579572546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8848136552048498236.post-53405900534253267362007-10-28T22:24:00.000-04:002007-10-28T22:24:00.000-04:00I think you are right about people not understandi...I think you are right about people not understanding the true concept of dialogue. I, my self, am not completely sure. All we are taught is how to argue (debate) and that winning is everything. The world we live in is very competitive. It would be great if people were taught how to listen to one another and that winning isn't everything.bubbleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00775397968561314694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8848136552048498236.post-7482100079652804672007-10-28T20:23:00.000-04:002007-10-28T20:23:00.000-04:00Hi Michael! Thank you so much for posting all thes...Hi Michael! Thank you so much for posting all these insights about your trip. It is really nice to read about. You have many good insights which are intriguing to read. I agree with you when you said that there are just some things you can explain to a person. It is hard to explain something that was very powerful to see, feel, or taste to someone with only words. Also, I agree that people have trouble focusing on dialogue. I think that a person has to be honest with others in order to have a dialogue. If a person is honest, they can admit they do not know everything and will be more open to listening to what others have to say.J. Marrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08761297120124806959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8848136552048498236.post-83007231130299955982007-10-28T16:31:00.000-04:002007-10-28T16:31:00.000-04:00I have to admit that I have always avoided debate ...I have to admit that I have always avoided debate (and by extension, I suppose dialogue as well), because I tend to feel that I lose something if I don't manage to prove my point, or bring people to my point of view. I don't think I've ever really considered that maybe that's not what the point truly is. But like you said, it's not about winning or being right, but bettering yourself. Thank you for pointing this out.Katie Rhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12699675703028434641noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8848136552048498236.post-64495819465540714012007-10-27T19:09:00.000-04:002007-10-27T19:09:00.000-04:00Thank you for the post. For people to admit that t...Thank you for the post. For people to admit that they are wrong requires a great amount of confidence. People who do not know a thing tend to be the most opinionated about the whole wide world. Hearing themselves arguing is a huge confidence boost. It is easier to argue about what one doesn't know then reading a book and learning something.Michaelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02110562171175690811noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8848136552048498236.post-66475736795960956092007-10-27T15:16:00.000-04:002007-10-27T15:16:00.000-04:00I agree with you when you say that people do not f...I agree with you when you say that people do not focus on the actual dialogue but they tend to concentrate on whether they are right or wrong. We, as humans, are so focused on our own opinions that we have trouble listening to the opinions of others. I think that before dialogue can truly happen, people must admit that mabye they don't know everything. Once this occurs, dialogue of any kind (interreligious, political, or social)have a much greater chance of success.K. Kinnardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03773447993807830930noreply@blogger.com